A friend of mine had another friend share this with her and it was life changing- “we are wired for survival, not happiness”. It changed the way my friend saw her reactions to many things in life to the point that it changed her behavior and she wanted to share the concept with her friends too.
As I thought about it more, I reflected back to some of my own experiences that fit that description, two of which I blogged about (both short and at the bottom of this post if you’re interested). I realized that I am habitual rather than reflective in my responses and I’m beginning to agree conceptually that it’s about survival, not happiness. I’m trying to take a pause before reacting to stressful situations in order to really consider options that lead to happiness and other positive outcomes. These decisions often come at the expense of immediate discomfort like fear and vulnerability, so it’s really hard, but has been worth the effort.
Do you have thoughts, experiences, or observations you’d like to share? If so, please comment or share a blog. Here are mine:
Habit Stopping Love, https://wp.me/p9Stpq-4z
Week of Wow, I Just Recognized The Obvious. https://wp.me/p9Stpq-5r
*Photo by LahLa at a U2 concert.
*I heard this saying through a friend of a friend, however, when looking into other possible sources, I saw similarities in the excerpt of Hardwiring Happiness by Rick Hanson which deserves a mention.